Just Imagine! (Day two)

Statuary warning :- if u r good @ imagination then only read this blog. otherwise u wont be able to 'feel' it. This is the second short story in this series, if this also goes well, i might consider writing some more also... :)

Consider a rare, perfect day of ur life. Its a perfect day to wander outside. Sun is shining bright, very little that too white clouds in the sky. Its not so hot outside, and not too chilly also. U decided to just go out somewhere. Anywhere where ur legs take you. So with some cash in ur hands, u start off the journey for a day which u have not planned, where to go, what to do, how to go and all..

Now that you have left home, you went to bus stop for ur next adventure. You get on a bus, not thinking where it is going, as you want to go wherever it takes you.. you ask the conductor for the last stop, sit down on a seat (told you its perfect day, you even get a seat in bus!) and ask co-passenger where does this bus goes. he tells the name of the place, thinking that you will visit a new place, you become happy and carry on.

you get down at the last stop, now that you have started feeling hungry, you search for a hotel. you find one very good hotel nearby (perfect day!). you enter, sit down and order something to eat. the order comes in no time (i didnt say anything now..) you finish the dish and get up and go to counter to pay the bill. you see the bill, its not much; you take out ur wallet from right pocket and pay the bill. you again keep it in right pocket. you leave from the hotel and catch the bus which just arrived outside to go to ur next destination(?...!) once in bus, you again take ticket for last stop. you take the wallet and pay the ticket.

but wait, something is fishy. you kept your wallet in right pocket, how did it go in left pocket? first you think you only by mistake kept in left pocket and forgot. you go ahead and occupy a vacant seat. you still feel something fishy, that wallet did look like yours but something was missing. you take it out again and start examining it. you feel something in ur right pocket, you take that thing out to look, its ur wallet. whose wallet was there in ur left pocket then? you start somparing the two wallets. surprisingly both are almost same except for the contents. the new wallet has much much more money than ur wallet. now think about it, when and how exactly that come in ur pocket? was it stolen by someone?

there is no sign or card of anyone in the new wallet. no single sign to know whose wallet is that.. after searching thoroughly, you find a chit in it. printed in it, is "you have been graced by the luck. enjoy the money as much as you want. but before that you should get this chit zeroxed and distribute to at least to 100 people" haan another one of the chain mails. you see something scribbled on the back of it, curiously you check it out. its written 'go to hell!!!' it must have been written by the owner of the wallet. "my god, he lost this much amount of money for not distributing this!!!" you first think, then just wave off this thought, saying that some pick pocketer took it and to get away from crowd put in ur pocket. but hey, wont he come back then? he may even take ur wallet.

leave it! why to worry now? but still you keep ur wallet in ur front pocket. you get down at the last bus stop and start thinking of returning back to ur home. but wait the 'perfect' day is just started.. you first go to a small shop to ask about the return route. there a person sees you and start chasing you. at least you think you are being chased by him for a moment. you get the information about the bus route and get on it. the person u thought to be chasing you isnt on the bus so you sigh with relief saying that it was just ur imagination. you sit on an empty seat (perfect day hasnt yet ended..)

you start thinking of the events happened from the morning. nothing much great but something somewhere is bugging you. something is not right here. you check the pockets. ur wallet is not there. only the new wallet is there. you start panicking but then you remember that you only kept it in front pocket. you check it and find in there. again a sigh of relief.

once you get down at the ur bus stop, ur old familiar bus stop, you start feeling secure. just then a hand grabs ur shoulder. shocked, you turn to find only the ticket checker. you show him the ticket and start walking away from the bus stop. again one hand grabs ur shoulder, this time less shocked you turn and find the some unknown person, u say 'excuse me'. the person replies, you have something which you shouldnt carry without satisfying the rules written on it. just do whatever is written on it otherwise the bad luck wont leave you at all. freaked out, you leave urself from his grip and start running away.

you reach home, gasping for some breath, enter the kitchen and drink some water. after a li'l bit of time you feel a bit more comfortable. you think of calling someone and telling what happened. who else can you call other than ur best friend? you call him (or her) and start narrating what happened since morning. till you reach the bus stop and met the stranger who said... ur friend stops you abruptly and asks "did he say, 'you have something which you shouldnt carry without satisfying the rules written on it. just do whatever is written on it otherwise the bad luck wont leave you at all.' ??" startled, you say yes! on that friend replies, perfect, now he deserves 500/- for the beautiful and perfect acting..................................

Habit

If you havent read the title of this blog, there is a puzzle for u

what is this thing?

it doesnt go so easily..
if u remove first letter, a bit remains
if u remove first two letter, bit remains
even if u remove first three letters, still it remains
told u, it is very difficult for it to go..

now as you have read the title, yes the answer is habit.

what exactly is a habit? its something which is a part of you. so in-built in you, that you often do it unknowingly. or it is something without which you wont be able to live life as lively you wud with those things. seems a confusing sentence? i ll explain..

in general, someone has defined habit as two types - bad habits and good habits.
for explanation, i ll take help of a bad habit. smoking.. have you seen a smoker, who missed his normal quota? either that person becomes so irritating, you wud feel like kicking him; or he will become so restless, you wud not be able to keep up with his pace with ur eyes.

as i mentioned above, there are two types of habits - good and bad. bad habits are really very very hard to leave and good habits are really very very hard to get hooked on to..

one more thing. many of the habits are deceptive. they seems to be making ur life happy, bearable. but in reality they are making your life miserable. there are some good habits, which make your life miserable now, but help you in long run. (e.g. waking up early in morning and going for a jog)

once more, as habits are very hard to go, be careful before getting habituated to something.

habits are not only related to that of things we do. habit is also for a person. its like u get habituated to a person so much, that you may start taking that person for granted. if the person is good enough to understand that you have become habituated to that person, he wont mind. otherwise that person may feel offended, and the bond with that person may break.

there is one movie, as usual i dont remember name, but in that movie, there is a clear misunderstanding between habit and love. its about a game show. in that, you have to stay with a person for three weeks and one week without even seeing each other. at the end of every week, there will be some questions asked to each other regarding other person. so for this purpose, you have to notice the person you are living with very carefully. so now once you are habitual to the other person in that one month, you get to decide whether you will go for money and a rule which states that u wont meet the other person in next ten years, or ditch the money and go with the person. this is where habit comes into picture. as you have got used to that person, you cant resist the desire to see that person.

this is about the movie, but just think is that right? people in that movie have mistaken habit for love. they say in movie, that the person wont take money coz they will fall in love with each other in a month’s time. grow up..... love isnt a thing which will grow up in one month’s time of introduction. it needs knowing each other, trusting, supporting each other and all...

finally time to confess, something which i have grown habitual to. i have grown habitual to staying late in night in office, wasting time in stuff like surfing, reading manga and all. its not that its completely bad or something like that, its just i dont get complete sleep. and right now I m feeling very very sleepy. so going to sleep. c ya in next blog.

P.S. if you think this is an abrupt end, you can have your own ending to this blog in comments, i wont mind. this was just what i think about habits. if i get to know anything more, i will surely update this blog..

Perception

Perception is a thing which you cant change for someone else, if you dont understand theirs...

Neither you can change yours, if you dont want to..!

Friends...

hiiiiii

last blog was on trust. this blog is on one relation where u will come to know true importance of trust. the relation in ur life which doesnt come with u as free package when u r born. its a relation which u have to EARN. its Friendship. its one of the relations which dont come naturally (read 'by birth'). its true that u cant live without ur family i.e. those who have blood relation with u, but its equally true that u cant leave without these earned relations. its coz in outer world, these relations help u to survive. i said outer world, which means world which exists outside the periphery of ur secured world of family. every kid has two worlds- secured world, inside own house with family and an outer world where almost all people whom he meets, are unknown.

man is social animal. philosophically speaking every human being is brother or sister of other human being. because we all share same gene structure. literally speaking is this practical? u even tend to forget ur second or third cousin, then how the hell are u supposed to remember ur distant(read 1000th or so. i m being generous in this, the figure may even go upto a lac or so...) cousin? in this case, what we can do is just forget that we had any relation with that person. this puts an end to blood relation. this is limitation for blood relation. this is where exactly other relations start.

coming back to point, what do i exactly mean by earning a relation? as i said earlier, u have limited no of blood relations. and there are almost unlimited number of people u meet everyday. it is impossible to remember everyone unless u have some god's gift like a photographic memory or something like that. hence, u need to choose some of them to be the people who may have relation with u, e.g. to be ur friend. but its not only one way. every relation shud have a two way connection. so, even if u choose a person to be ur friend if that person doesnt think about u as a friend, then its of no use. in this case, u can regard friendship as love. its never one way, it has to be two way. u have to do a li'l work , put in efforts to earn the trust of other person. work doesnt end here, u may say it just starts here... hello, who will take responsibility of this trust once u earned it?

this was about start of friendship. now the course. during the course, u tend to put them under different categories like only friend, good friend, best friend. when u have just become friends with each other, when u just know each other thats the phase when u r only friends. then after u have known each other for some period, u put them under 'good friend' category. after this category comes the gr8, best part of friendship called 'best friend'. and it is like a pyramid, as u go higher in category, the number reduces. it's necessary to be like that so that the pyramid stands up. last category is the rarest category in friends. u find many friends, very less good friends and very very less best friends. the reason why i am saying best friends should be very less, is that if u have too many best friends then what will be the value of a best friend..?

there was a mail stating how the friends are. its was something like, friend is like everyone in one package. by everyone, i mean brother, father(or sister, mother) and not to forget a companion. in that mail, it was stated something like friend will irritate u like brother, will take care of u like father and all... dont remember it word to word. i just remember what all important things in it are. it shows how much important friends are even though u have other important persons in life. like family, ur life partner, ur kids (in future)... ur family and all relatives form a pair of pillars for ur support, while friends form other two.

i have stated three types of friends earlier. out of those, only friends dont matter much when it comes to supporting u. they may help u out in some situations, but supporting is different than helping. good friends and best friends do that. they sometimes even find it difficult to help u out, but just their presence makes u feel that u r not alone. thats what supporting means. the feeling that u have someone to support gives u courage to handle difficult situations. this is where u know the importance of friends.

good friends and best friends both give u support. then why there are two categories? good friends are the friends who support u, u can just look at them as a definite pillar where u can rest ur head and forget all worries. but they are not best friends, as the support u get from a best friend is customised. u may have many good friends, u have same relation with all of them. u support all of them equally. i mean to say, given a situation, u will help ur two good friends in same manner. but when it comes to best friends, the case is totally different.

what exactly is best friend like? best friends are like a pair which is inseparable. by any means. when u attain the status of best friend, its like the person who is calling u best friend knows u all, in and out. he knows what will u do in a situation, what u will be doing at a particular time, what are ur likings and dislikings, how u will do a particular thing in a peculiar way etc. that person will know u so much, that u ll feel like he knows u from ages, even though he wud be knowing u for few years or even in some cases for few months. as u know ur best friend completely, the support and help u ll give to ur best friend will be completely according to what u think suits that person perfectly. this part is different from good friends and even different for each best friend.

u know what the best part of a best friend is? u cant describe that person in words. u know so much about that person that u wudnt find any words to describe.
today morning i had a conversation with my best friend, then with his fiancee. what happened was i was just pulling his leg by saying that, as he has got her, he doesn't reply to my messages. she said that he doesnt even reply to her. this was all part of pulling his leg. but he got serious, said he didnt get my messages and started scolding his fiancee saying, 'dont create misunderstanding b/w me and my friend'. i just said to him, 'dont worry, i know u. such small things can't change my opinion about u. even if i hear anything which may create misunderstanding b/w u n me, i ll come to directly to u to clarify things. i know u wudnt lie to me, coz i trust u, thats why i ll directly come to u and ask. thats IF by any chance i take such things talked about u seriously!'
thats how best friends are. u dont have to say things to each other, u just know those things.

Trust

hello once again

day before yesterday, i was watching a hindi movie -Dhoom2. there is a scene in that movie. in that, aishwarya and hritik are on a cliff. hritik tells aishwarya that he trusts her and whether she trusts him or not. she says yes.(phas gayi...) at that moment only hritik tells her jump from cliff. she first hesitates but she has agreed that she trusts him, she jumps finally. hritik catches her heroically and all the scene ends like the usual hindi movie scene...

the impact the scene had on me was, i started thinking on one of the human values called 'trust'. this value is very sweet, tender but extremely dangerous. it can be related to a two-edged sword. if used properly, it will be the best weapon. but if misused it will fire back to u. coming back to the main topic, trust is also same. if u know whom to trust, it will be like ur best investment. if u trust someone who is not worthy, u will feel the pinch. and when someone's trust breaks; it is next to impossible to win it back.

if it is dangerous, next question comes, is it that important to trust someone? my personal opinion is -yes. if u dont trust anyone, u ll become a human being who is self-contained. and science tells that humans are social beings. there are some expection though. when u trust someone, its like giving them importance, making them feel that they are wanted. this only feeling of being wanted by someone, makes someone feel good. on the other hand, when someone trusts u, u feel the responsibility, u feel the importance which other person is willing to give u.

what exactly is trust... its kinda tough to ellaborate. i m not saying that i can. i m just trying to understand myself what exactly is trust. what are ur feeling when u trust someone? when u r with that person what do u feel? its like u know, that particular person will do something in some peculiar way. trust comes in when fear about the person goes away. fear of how the other person's reaction will be when u say something, or when u do something. that happens when u know a person, or at least u think so. when u r with a person whom u trust, u feel secured. i can give u classic example. why does every kid feel most secured when it is with its mother? its because the kid trusts its mother the most.

how does it feel when someone trusts u? its like u feel u have to do the thing, for which other person trusts u, the same way in which that person wants u to do. trusting someone is like giving that person authority to make or break the relation. now its upto other person whether to accept this responsibility or not. that person may feel it as good thing in building a good relation, or he may feel it like a burden. first case -u have trusted right person. second case -oops! sorry, game over.

sometimes, u get to know that a person trusts u, from some other source. that time, if u have done something unknowingly also, u may feel that u have done a mistake. to share u my personal experience, once my friend said that if his mother calls me i shud tell that he is with me. he had told at home that he is coming to my place for study. i said ok and waited for his mothers call. she didnt call. this happened two or three times. then i said to my friend, "yaar ur mother trusts u so much that she doesnt even verify. then why u always tell me to tell her WHEN SHE CALLS?" he said casually, "my mother doesnt trust me, she trusts u. thats why ur name is only enough for her to be sure that i m with u." that time, even i havnt done anything directly to break her trust, still i felt something. i felt like i m breaking her trust, though indirectly. it hurt then, u know...

how will u feel when someone breaks ur trust? it will be like someone has shattered u, broke u apart. u wont be able to trust anyone for a while. until u get someone who trusts u so much, that makes u trust him. its like this only. as mentioned above it is next to impossible to build it again.

........ it feels as if i m out of words. or u can say that i m out of ideas to write more. its good if i give it fullstop here only. now if u have so much patience to read this upto here then u must be able to read ahead. u know, like reading between the lines. so, have a good reading, c ya in next blog.

Life

today i want to tell u a li’l secret. its regarding my blogs. most of them are inspired from movies. reason – i m a li’l bit of movie freak. ok then, credit for todays blog goes to a wonderful movie called ‘Titanic’. and as the blog title reads, it is about life.

everyone knows titanic sank to bottom of the ocean. there were thousands of men and women on it. the movie titanic tells the story of two of them. rose and jack. just imagine how many of these ‘rose and jack’s wud have been there aboard the titanic. while watching the movie we even think of some other characters, but have u ever thought that there can be at least hundreds of rose and jack on titanic. i m saying this not just to show u the hugeness of titanic, but also that there are many things in the world, in our own life that get ignored many times.

coming back to what inspired me to write this blog. there is a scene in the movie in which jack talks about how he wud like to live his life. this happens when he is invited to dinner by rose’s fiancée. he says he has got all what he needs to live. air in lungs and sheets for drawings. when asked how he travels, he answers he likes to go his own way. every morning when he gets up he doesnt know whats gonna happen in the day ahead.

now a question. when u watch a movie, dont u feel that the world is revolving around the hero of the movie? what will u say if i asked u that how will u feel if i make u stand at the position of the central character of the movie? if i tell u to experience that world is revolving around u? it wud a very nice feeling right? everyday when u wake up, just close ur eyes for a moment, and say to god that ‘i dont know whats gonna happen in my life today; but whatever happens, i m ready for it.’ and see the fun. u ll feel enormous joy. it ll be like god is writing a story full of mystery and u r right at the centre of it. and as god is the writer, the story wud be really excellent. there is no doubt in it.

now the next part. when u read a story, u ll find there is a central character and there are many surrounding or supporting characters. now think, can there be a story only with one character? the answer is a big NO. so the other characters in story are as important as the central character. when u r god’s central character in ur life, then the people u meet, people around u are the supporting characters that support ur story of life. when u talk to anyone that person has some impact on u and vice versa. whenever u meet someone, look for anything that might catch ur attention. something peculiar about the person. it helps in remembering the person. and if that peculiar thing is of ur interest then that thing may get incorporated in ur life. this all happens subconsciously.

there are lot of things in the life that can not be analyzed. or shud i say understood? by normal human beings of course. the story written by god has got so many twists and turns, that it cant be analyzed by simple, plain mathematical logic. u just cant imagine how the logic of god may work. to give u an example; in my school once there was a new boy, whom i didnt like in first meeting. there was something about him, which i dont remember now, that made me dislike him. but within a week, he became my best friend. on the contrary, there was another new boy with whom i had a good rapport right from first day, is now my just friend. just friend with whom i had lost contact already.

see? u dont know which way ur life turns. so i may suggest u to entirely leave it to god’s hand, but just carry out ur duties given by him, in order to please him. so that he keeps writing good story for u. duties as in whatever u do in ur life, do it whole heartedly. give it the best u can. when u give all u have to the life, life will present u with nice and warm surprises. it is the law of life. whatever u give, u get it back. many times u get it back alongwith interest. so if u perform good in the play of life, u ll get awarded in ur life.

How you judge a person?

hello again.....

as compared o previous versions, this blog comes pretty early after the last one. this, u can say is may be an effect of my last blog on myself. jokes apart. just today morning this topic came to life in my wierd brain and it gave an order to body to write down my thoughts.

Ok. coming back to the topic. what exactly is the procedure u use to judge a person? it is said that the first impression is always the best impression. what all comes under first impression? look, body language, talking style etc. now comes the question, what all u conceive from looks and body language. many times looks are deceptive. u dont know who is wearing a 'mask' of a kind person. it is a human tendency to behave nice with someone with whom one has some work. so there may be a case that someone behaves nicely with u, just coz that person wants u to do something.

now lets think after the first impression. now what all things come to ur mind about the person. how and what he talks with u, about u, about people around. there is one more human tendency that when a person talks good things about u, u start thinking that the person is good. when someone says u need to improve or there is something bad about u, u may start thinking that the person is not so good. what i can say is only one thing. dont just go by the words any person says. get to the feelings of those words. decipher the feelings of the person who issaying the things about u. if its something good about u, then it may have been to show u what u r. and if its something bad then maybe that person needs u to know where u lack. read between the lines. thats a good habit.

there is one more case. the case in which u need someone's help, and seek out for it. but the person is either not willing to help or is not genuinly in a positon to help u. in this case, we are in such a great hurry of seeking help that we forget to check whether theperson is not willing to help or is genuinly not able to help. this is where u need patience. only patience can help in this condition. u need help. but think before asking for it. think that, is the person whom u r asking for help is able to help or not. if he is able to and still if he is not helping u then it wud mean that the person is not willing to help u. but its important to think first before acting. action without thought is nothing.

ok then. u need to know one last thing. keep ur senses on when u r judging a person. most important thing to know is u shud have an eye contact when talking to a person. it enables u chec whether the person is lieing or not.

phew..... enough for today. gotta go and have something to eat. otherwise i wont be in a position to judge anyone. and that will be like an illiterate person teaching how to write. so until my next blog bugs u, happy hunting. imean judging.....

Urgently needed: - "Time"

hello again.....

as u can see this blog comes after reallly looooooooooong time. i can say that i was busy wid some work, didnt have time, was not supposed to be doing time pass in these things and blah blah. but frankly speaking i also dont know the real reason why i took sooooooooo much time to continue the blogging.

as u can see; i wrote my last blog in around october, last year. at that time only i joined a company, and my 'job' started. so i may have a valid reason saying that i was so busy in my job that i didnt have time to write anything. this may have been true for first 2-3 months, but during the training one of my senior in company had mentioned that he had a hobby of writing. one of my fellow joinee asked him why he said 'had'. whether he didnt like to write now. the reply was 'i still like to write, but i dont have time.'

interesting, right? may i ask u one question here. what will be ur answer, when someone asks u whether u have time to do something. i guess u will first ask 'what is that u want me to do?' many of us do that. now if the work someone wants us to do, is not complicated or if it is complicated but favourite then we might answer positively. otherwise we may say 'lets see. if i get time i will certainly do' now the question comes, if the work someone wants u to do is not ur favourite or simple, will u really have time to do that?

coming back to my senior, he then received a reply from another one of my friend, 'if its ur hobby, then u shud be able to take out some time to continue it.'

perfectly right. what do we have hobbies for? they are for our own relaxation. when we say i dont have time for hobbies, it means that we are so much into work that we dont even have free time for ourselves. thats the time when u need hobbies the most. when u r working something which is related to one of ur hobby, ur entire body responds to it. every part of ur body gets something, something different from food, but required to work properly. this is one thing i have learnt recently, from a friend. hobbies keep u lively which is quite different from being alive.

now coming back to title. all those who say that they need time to do something, think where can they get it. its not something that u just go to a merchant and buy it. no one can give u free time in ur life. because that is the something which belongs to u. u have to think where can u get it. think about ur entire schedule of the day. think where u can save time. think about things which take more time than needed. things which take up time more than the things which are more important and need time. identify things which eat up ur time. ditch them. not entirely though. use that time for some important things. u, and only u, can find time in ur life, if u truely need it.

i have heard someone say that giving gyaan is very easy, but implementing it is rather tough. so i tried it on myself. i took out time from one of hobby to give time time for other hobby. not exactly TOOK OUT, but rather i myself understood that for me, writing is almost at same level of priority as that of the reading.

anyway thats enough for now. but god only knows, when i ll be able to implement the above thing again in my life. until then c ya. have a nice TIME.....