Trust

hello once again

day before yesterday, i was watching a hindi movie -Dhoom2. there is a scene in that movie. in that, aishwarya and hritik are on a cliff. hritik tells aishwarya that he trusts her and whether she trusts him or not. she says yes.(phas gayi...) at that moment only hritik tells her jump from cliff. she first hesitates but she has agreed that she trusts him, she jumps finally. hritik catches her heroically and all the scene ends like the usual hindi movie scene...

the impact the scene had on me was, i started thinking on one of the human values called 'trust'. this value is very sweet, tender but extremely dangerous. it can be related to a two-edged sword. if used properly, it will be the best weapon. but if misused it will fire back to u. coming back to the main topic, trust is also same. if u know whom to trust, it will be like ur best investment. if u trust someone who is not worthy, u will feel the pinch. and when someone's trust breaks; it is next to impossible to win it back.

if it is dangerous, next question comes, is it that important to trust someone? my personal opinion is -yes. if u dont trust anyone, u ll become a human being who is self-contained. and science tells that humans are social beings. there are some expection though. when u trust someone, its like giving them importance, making them feel that they are wanted. this only feeling of being wanted by someone, makes someone feel good. on the other hand, when someone trusts u, u feel the responsibility, u feel the importance which other person is willing to give u.

what exactly is trust... its kinda tough to ellaborate. i m not saying that i can. i m just trying to understand myself what exactly is trust. what are ur feeling when u trust someone? when u r with that person what do u feel? its like u know, that particular person will do something in some peculiar way. trust comes in when fear about the person goes away. fear of how the other person's reaction will be when u say something, or when u do something. that happens when u know a person, or at least u think so. when u r with a person whom u trust, u feel secured. i can give u classic example. why does every kid feel most secured when it is with its mother? its because the kid trusts its mother the most.

how does it feel when someone trusts u? its like u feel u have to do the thing, for which other person trusts u, the same way in which that person wants u to do. trusting someone is like giving that person authority to make or break the relation. now its upto other person whether to accept this responsibility or not. that person may feel it as good thing in building a good relation, or he may feel it like a burden. first case -u have trusted right person. second case -oops! sorry, game over.

sometimes, u get to know that a person trusts u, from some other source. that time, if u have done something unknowingly also, u may feel that u have done a mistake. to share u my personal experience, once my friend said that if his mother calls me i shud tell that he is with me. he had told at home that he is coming to my place for study. i said ok and waited for his mothers call. she didnt call. this happened two or three times. then i said to my friend, "yaar ur mother trusts u so much that she doesnt even verify. then why u always tell me to tell her WHEN SHE CALLS?" he said casually, "my mother doesnt trust me, she trusts u. thats why ur name is only enough for her to be sure that i m with u." that time, even i havnt done anything directly to break her trust, still i felt something. i felt like i m breaking her trust, though indirectly. it hurt then, u know...

how will u feel when someone breaks ur trust? it will be like someone has shattered u, broke u apart. u wont be able to trust anyone for a while. until u get someone who trusts u so much, that makes u trust him. its like this only. as mentioned above it is next to impossible to build it again.

........ it feels as if i m out of words. or u can say that i m out of ideas to write more. its good if i give it fullstop here only. now if u have so much patience to read this upto here then u must be able to read ahead. u know, like reading between the lines. so, have a good reading, c ya in next blog.